According to a recent relationship poll from Match.com, the most common thing couples fight over is each other's FAMILY. Apparently it accounts for about 45% of all fights.
--And another poll showed that 58% of people think fighting is INEVITABLE. So the key is to have PRODUCTIVE arguments. Here are their top five things that they say ARE worth fighting over.
#1.) Spending Habits. If you're really careful with money but the other person's not, it's worth bringing up, because it's something that will directly affect you once you have a joint bank account.
--That's assuming you don't ALREADY. In fact, more and more couples are opting for SEPARATE bank accounts now, PLUS a joint bank account.
#2.) How Healthy Each of Your Lifestyles Are. Meaning, if you're playing tennis five days a week and they smoke two packs a day, that might be a problem. And it's important to talk about it early, because it might eventually be a deal breaker.
#3.) The Other Person's Bad Temper. Especially if you're starting to worry about your own safety, physically OR emotionally. A short fuse doesn't usually show up in the first few months you're dating. But if it eventually does, it's worth talking about.
#4.) Bathroom Habits. Like going with the door open, or how messy the other person leaves the sink. The reason this fight IS worth having is because you'll almost definitely be able to resolve it.
--Either one person will change their habits, or both of you will change something. Just try to be light-hearted and funny while you're talking about it.
#5.) Being a Team. If it's starting to feel like you're NOT, then you should bring it up. Usually it's because one person feels like they've been offering a lot of support, but they haven't been getting it in return. Or, they don't feel appreciated.
--And it's a fight worth having, because if a relationship doesn't have some kind of team dynamic to it, it probably won't last.
We all like to BELIEVE we have a great BS detector. But most people aren't as good as they think. Because we all still lie, and we all still expect to get away with it.
--Luckily there are real ways to sniff out when someone's lying, and they're a lot more specific . . . and EFFECTIVE . . . than "going with your gut."
#1.) They change the way they talk. Everybody has a certain way of talking when they have nothing to hide. And when they start lying, it changes. They talk faster or slower, or the pitch of their voice goes up or down . . .
--Maybe they start saying "um" or they STOP saying it. But if something in their voice is out of the ordinary, it's a good sign they're not telling you everything they know.
#2.) They avoid saying "I." Research has shown that people are less likely to use personal pronouns when they're lying. It's a way of creating psychological distance between themselves and the lie.
#3.) They have an answer for everything. When you're telling the truth, there's no pressure to convince anyone. But someone who's lying doesn't want it to LOOK like they're lying . . . so they tend to hesitate LESS, because they want to appear sure of themselves.
#4.) They fidget unnecessarily. Not just nervous movements, but fiddling with random objects.
--If someone keeps rearranging their desk, or brushing dirt from their clothes, it might be an unconscious attempt to distract you from what's being said. Or maybe the guilt is just making them anxious.
--This one is tricky though, and the jury's out. Because it depends WHEN they do it, how OFTEN, and whether they normally did it before.
#5.) They keep saying, "To tell you the truth." A lot of liars have a tendency to keep proclaiming their honesty, with phrases like, "To tell you the truth," or "To be perfectly honest . . ."
Things like getting a good education and applying yourself are what MOSTLY determine how successful you are . . . but a lot of LITTLE things affect it too. And some of them you can't do anything about.
--Check out this list from Buzzfeed.com of seven things you can't control that determine how successful you are.
#1.) Having Thick Eyebrows. A study at Duke compared pictures of CEOs with pictures of low-level employees. And the CEOs were much more likely to have thick, bushy eyebrows.
--Apparently it's not just because most CEOs are old guys. Because when they compared the eyebrows of CEOs at different companies, the ones at the most-SUCCESSFUL companies had the BUSHIEST eyebrows.
#2.) Being Tall. A study in 2009 found that for every two inches taller someone is, they earn an average of $1,000 more per year.
--So in theory, if you were six inches taller, you'd make $3,000 more than you currently do.
#3.) Being Named Peter or Deborah. According to data pulled from LinkedIn.com, men are more likely to be the CEO of a company if their name is Bob, Peter, or Jack. And for women, Deborah, Sally, and Cynthia are best.
#4.) Being Blonde. Obviously anyone can be blonde if they can get to a pharmacy and have ten bucks.
--But a 2010 study in Australia found that blonde women make 7% more than brunettes on average. And it also found that blonde women are more likely to marry a RICH guy.
--The president of something called the International Blondes Association claimed it's because blondes are, quote, "more fun and outgoing, and men are more attracted to [them]."
#5.) Being a Psychopath. Maybe you've heard this one, but according to a book called "The Psychopath Test", CEOs are four times more likely to be psychopaths . . . which basically means they don't have the same emotions the rest of us do, and just care about themselves.
--In the general population, an estimated one out of every 100 people is a psycho. But among CEOs, it's FOUR TIMES that.
#6.) Being the Oldest Child. According to researchers in Norway, first-born children tend to earn more money, and have slightly higher IQs. And they're also more likely to be competitive in general.
#7.) Being Born in June. A survey done by England's Office for National Statistics found that more executives were born in June than any other month. And so were 23% of the last 22 Nobel Peace Prize winners.
Most people assume that if a food is approved by the FDA, then it's safe to eat. But there ARE some foods that are legal here, and not in other countries.
--Check out this list from the fitness website FitPerez.com of five food ingredients that other countries have banned because of health concerns.
#1.) Yellow 5. It's in cake, candy, macaroni and cheese, sports drinks, soda, pet food, and cheese . . . to name a few.
--And it's been banned by a lot of countries in Europe because it's made from something called "coal tar," which is also used to make floor sealant. Blue 1, Blue 2, and Yellow 6 have ALSO been banned in other countries.
--But studies have shown that brighter colors in processed foods make us THINK they taste better. So they still haven't been banned here.
#2.) Olestra. It's a substitute used in a lot of fat-free potato chips. England and Canada have both banned it over possible health concerns . . . including rear-end LEAKAGE.
--Some people claim the only reason it's still legal in the U.S. is because Procter & Gamble spent a half BILLION dollars creating it.
#3.) Brominated Vegetable Oil. It's also known as "BVO", and it's been banned in over 100 countries. It's in a lot of sports drinks and fruit-flavored sodas. It's what keeps the artificial flavoring from floating to the top so you don't have to shake it up before you drink it.
--Some researchers say it causes thyroid issues, autoimmune disease, and cancer. And the main ingredient is bromine (--pronounced BRO-mean), which is linked to birth defects, growth problems, schizophrenia, and hearing loss.
#4.) Azodicarbonamide. (--pronounced ay-zo-die-car-BONN-uh-mide) It's a chemical compound used to bleach flour . . . so companies don't have to wait a week for the flour to whiten NATURALLY.
--It's in frozen dinners, some pastas and some types of bread, and it's been linked to ASTHMA. If a company in Singapore uses it, they face almost a half-million dollar fine and up to 15 years in prison.
#5.) Arsenic. The FDA allows farmers to use it in chicken feed to promote growth and fight off parasites. And it also makes the chicken's skin more PINK, which means the meat looks fresher longer.
--The drug company Pfizer stopped selling it in July. And earlier this month, Maryland became the first state to ban it. But it's been banned in Europe since 1999.