Question:  We all say we want it, but what exactly is happiness?

Webster’s dictionary definition of happiness is:

-         a state of well-being and contentment
-         a pleasurable or satisfying experience

Gandi says:  Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.

Aristotle stated:  Happiness is the meaning and purpose of life, the whole aim and end of human existence. 

Happiness is hard to define, but happiness is a decision.  It requires actions on our part and actions require decisions.

Question:  How do we go about getting happiness?

1.  You need to understand that you deserve happiness.  If you believe you aren’t worth of it, then you could subconsciously sabotage your efforts to achieve happiness.  Remind yourself every day that you DESERVE to be happy, and tell yourself what steps you will take to achieve the happiness you desire. 

2. Take steps to maintain your health.  Being overweight or not eating nutritious foods can have a negative effect on your mood.  And most of us know that exercise has been known to release endorphins that give you a feeling of happiness.

3.  Focus on what you can control.  We are truly only in control of our reactions to situations, not what is given to us.  This is huge…as it requires decisions about how we will react to situations.  You can’t change how people around you behave, but you can change your behavior. 

4.  Help someone else.  Giving to others is an essential key to happiness.  Someone once said…happiness is like a kiss…you must share it to enjoy it.  Find someone in need and lend a helping hand.

5.  Lastly, count your blessings.  Learn the attitude of gratitude.  There are so many things we can be grateful for and find joy in…but often we focus on the negative.  Make it a point to find time everyday to reflect in positive things that have happened during the day. 

If you or someone in your life needs help in finding happiness, please contact Penrose-St. Francis Women’s Behavioral Health Services at 634-1825.